They used to say that the fastest way to a man’s heart was through his
stomach. The fastest and surest way to a man’s heart is through his ego.
This is the most sensitive part of a man, the part that responds most
enthusiastically to a woman’s interest.
Men are like fish. The big ones put up a good fight in order to avoid
being caught. Use only the highest quality hooks to insure that the love
you want doesn’t escape. Remember that all smart anglers concentrate
their efforts on achieving an maintaining an unshakable attachment.
Find a lifestyle match, not a mismatch. Even the most charming,
attractive, and exciting men may not be right for you. If you don’t have
similar values and lifestyles, differences may start to accumulate,
deepen, and widen. Remember that opposites may attract initially, but
tend to repel consistently over time. In the long-run, similar values
and lifestyle habits create the most secure and lasting relationship
bonds. So while differences may be welcomed in style, they are not in
substance.
Men are like fish. Don’t let the small ones grab your attention and
steal your bait. Concentrate on catching only bigger ones. You rarely
get any better than what you aim for. Therefore, be smart, be patient,
and aim high.
In fishing and in your love life, always remember that you cannot catch
the ones you want if they are not where you are.
Break the ice easily. Find non-threatening topics to get your
conversations started quickly and easily. Remind yourself that the best
conversations are mostly pleases ant in nature. Play it safe initially
by avoiding sensitive subjects like politics, religion, money and sex.
Those kinds of issues can wait until you know the other person a little
better.
Show him your care. A Chinese proverb reads, “One kind word can warm
three winter months.” People are more interested in how much you care
about them than in how much you know. Show them how much you care by
your examples of thoughtfulness, kindness, sincerity, respect and
compassion.
Disarm him with compliments. One of the best ways to move a man
emotionally is to keep him off-balance with a timely and tasteful
compliment. Try either his positive character traits ( Honesty,
sincerity, caring) or his taste in what he wears ( neckties, shirts,
fabrics) or owns ( cars, collections). Make him fear a lost of
opportunities. Men absolutely hate or fear the feeling of rejection.
Make sure that men know you are available for dating. The best kind of
availability, however, is limited availability. If you are never
available, men will think you are already involved or not interested.
But if you’re available all the time, they will think there mush be
something wrong with you. The best strategy is to be somewhere in the
middle. Make the man fear a lost opportunity more than being rejected.
Men are like fish. They can be spooked easily by the slightest negative
vibe. Learn not to scare them away early by making your initial
impressions nothing less than outstanding.
Prove for his emotional hungers. Dangle your attractive bait or wiggle
your feminine lure in a man’s most undernourished emotional area. This
is where a man is most vulnerable to you. Find his starving needs and
fill them quickly and elegantly. Become the consistent source of his
happiness and fulfillment.
Here are seven key emotions that men hunger for in their love lives:
1. The hunger for stability: One of the main reasons that a man
will seek a more mature woman is the stability, security and peace of
mind that she brings to a relationship. In an uncertain world, it is the
feeling of certainty that is often most highly prized.
2. The hunger for surprise: A younger women is often appealing to
an older man because of the surprise and delight that she brings to a
love relationship. While certainty is a highly prized, so is a little
uncertainty to crate excitement, variety and spontaneity in a man’s
life.
3. The hunger for appreciation: A man hungers to be recognized for
his unique qualities, achievements, or gifts. It is by being sincerely
appreciated by a woman that a man feels special and significant as a
human being.
4. The hunger for belonging: Deep inside a man’s heart must be a
feeling that he really belong with her. While he may enjoy the feeling
of being unique or significant as an individual, he also needs t feel
that special connection of being a vital part of her inner circle.
5. The hunger for a compelling future: For love to last, there
mush be growth. A man hungers for a woman who he clearly feels will be a
major part of creating a brighter and more exciting future for him.
6. The hunger to give: Real love involves both giving and
receiving. A man hungers for the woman he can please by receiving his
emotional gifts with honest delight and gratitude. Like a great
performer, a man is inspired to greatness by a woman who is warm and
appreciative audience.
7. The hunger to feel grateful: A man who feels the magic of true
love rarely obsesses about the benefits and trade-offs with a woman.
Instead he is simply grateful for having this particular woman appear in
his life. The greatest need for a man is the need to get down on his
knees an thank the heavens for being blessed with the love of a woman he
adores and cherishes.
Catch and release: 1) a common practice in the sport of fly-fishing,
where the angler sets free a fish unharmed immediately after capture. 2)
Giving a man enough space to periodically revive himself emotionally so
he can continue pursuing a woman he desires. 3) The secret to keeping
romance alive.
If it is life-long romance that you desire, don’t kill it off early by
locking it away like one of your prized possessions. Keep a healthy
feeling of freedom in your relationship and let the man chase after your
love over and over again. To prevent your romance from coming to an
emotional dead end, here are some ideas to help keep your love
relationship vibrant and healthy: stay attractive; don’t mother your
mate; create space in your love relationship; never break the trust;
manage your upsets; repair with forgiveness; create and develop new
channels for growth; treasure your moments now. Avoid taking your love
for granted. Show your gratitude by valuing it richly now. Don’t wait
until you lose it in order to appreciate it.
What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply
becomes a part of us.
It was an honest, supportive, loving relationship. I always felt that he
loves me for who I am not that he wants me to be someone else and for
that, I will always be grateful for him.
If you are upset about something, or angry, try to refrain from
announcing the issue while in this frame of mind. Likewise, if he is in
a negative or moody mindset, wait until his mood is lighter before
approaching him.
Male or female, we all need to know that our partner is there for us in
every way, and that they will always have an attentive ear if we need to
talk.
Real men want you to express your views on things. To tell them honestly
what you think. Whether your man agrees with what you have to say or not
is irrelevant. The important thing is that you are showing an interest
in something he is doing, is planning on doing or is interested in.
It is true that some things that happened in the past should be left in the
past. However, it is an entirely different story when it involves
something that has happened throughout the course of the current
relationship. Keeping secretes of this kind from your man can lead to
major drama if he ever finds out about them. Honesty and openness
prevail here, regardless of the outcome. Keeping your partner in the
dark about something that has a direct bearing and impact on the
relationship is a major breach of trust. And a relationship without
trust and honesty is worth nothing.
Give compliments to your man freely and regularly, and be genuine about
them. Above all, never offer a compliment with the sole desire of hoping
to receive one in return. Offer your words of praise unconditionally.
Notes and messages
Men like to receive little surprises as well. A gift or a surprise
doesn't have to be anything costly either. In fact, some of the most
cherished gifts are those that have been made of created personally by a
giver. You also need to know how to receive graciously as well. Even if
you don’t really like his gift, be appreciative of the thought and hart
attitude behind it.
Men like to hear those three magic words almost as much as women do. “I
love you” As much as this phrase is commonly used, I don’t think they
are words that can ever be overdone, overstated or overused.
Understanding your man – his way, his moods, why he is the way he is –
is essential for a successful , fulfilling and long lasting relationship
between the two of you. Learning about your partner takes time and
patience and some effort on your part, but it is a richly rewarding
experience, and one that will even help you to learn more about
yourself.
Your guy needs to know that you are supportive. It is something a man
really relies on and thrives on within a relationship.
We’ve all heard that relationships take work. They don’t just happen.
And they certainly don’t remain hot and spicy without some conscious
effort. None of us wants a boring and lifeless relationship, but many of
us end up with exactly that over time.
Men, as much as women, like to be appreciated. As covered earlier, men
like compliments, need love and support, and a partner who is passionate
about them as an individual, and passionate about their relationship
together.
Remaining diligent in your relationship – being conscious of showing
genuine appreciation, respect and gratitude – take effort. Don’t put off
for tomorrow what you can do today.
Try and think of at least one thing you can do every single day to show
your man that you love him and appreciate him. This will have a very
positive affect on him. Positive actions produce positive reactions.
Chances are, he’ll start doing the same in return.
Remember, men respond much more favorably to logic than emotional
outbursts.
Men need time out to themselves: Time to reflect on the day, a moment to
ponder, a chance to wind down. How much time your man needs and how
often depends on his personality and temperament, and the circumstances
of his life. Men also like to have an area of the house that is
exclusively their domain ( like the shed or garage).
Your partner will need some quiet time for himself every so often. Help
him to have that time, those moments of peace and serenity. Don’t try to
fill every waking moment of his day with things to do. Likewise, in
order to refresh your own mind and keep your sanity, you also need to
allocate some quiet time alone for yourself as well. We all need this,
at least in small doses.
Surprise your man occasionally. Book a night in a motel out of town and
take him there. Have an uninhibited night of freedom and fun together.
Men may not always say it, but we love it when our special lady does
something totally unexpected and pleasant for us. It also inspires us to
do the same.
Watching Sport. Men NEED to do this!!
It seems to be quite common for the parents of one partner not entirely
happy with their son’s or daughter’s choice in a mate. No one knows
exactly why this is. The only logical explanation of this phenomenon is
that most parents never fell anyone is quite good enough for their
children.
The “blood is thicker than water” analogy comes into play. If things are
not great with the in-laws, do your best to be pleasant and get along
with them as much as you can manage.
If your man doesn’t get along with your mom and dad, he will still need
to show some respect for your sake. If he refuses to do so, talk to him
about the reasons why. If nothing can be resolved there, at least plead
with him to be civil to them for your benefit.
Have trust and faith in him. Even if you know for certain a woman in the
office is quite keen on your man, know that he is happy with you and be
confident that he will not respond to her advances. Try to avoid
indulging in fits of jealousy, or wrongly accusing him of playing up on
you. These acts will ultimately spell death for your relationship.
There is nothing wrong with wanting money and having a great lifestyle,
and we all need cash to live, but money can’t be , can never be, the
foundation upon which your entire relationship hinges. Couples need to
be able to endure tough times as well as the good and prosperous if they
are to survive together. Relationships are primarily about finding a
life partner; someone to share your life with.
What men don’t like is undue pressure being placed on them, especially
by their partner, to be something they either don't want to be or simply
are not cut out to be. Men need to feel that you are supportive of them
and happy with what they’ve chosen to do.
Have you or your partner mapped out a budget with your combined incomes?
Have you worked out whose wage covers what bills and when? If both
partners in a relationship are both earning an income, then both have
the responsibility to contribute to the running of the home, daily
expenses and entertainment. Obviously if one partner is bringing in much
more money than the other, then they are going to be contributing more
because they can. But both should contribute.
You always want your man to think you look hot. And he will if you don’t
let yourself go. Letting yourself go to flab or generally no longer
caring about how you look will turn your man off as quickly as anything
can. And it’s not just the end result of this that will do it either. It
is the attitude behind it !!! This tells him one thing: you have him now
and you no longer need or want to put in any effort to keep him.
Wrong!!! The secret is this: It’s not all about how you look. It’s about
how much you care about how you look for him. Letting yourself go means
to not care about how you look, or do your best to look your best. The
very fact that you are trying to look after yourself and your
appearance, and not letting yourself go, is something that men find
extremely attractive in a woman. You should always try to keep fit and
in the best possible shape you can be.
Most women like to wear some degree of makeup. Don't overdo it. Wear
some at home occasionally. Don't just save it for when you are off to
work or going out someplace. Doing that suggest that you don't really
care what you look for him just everybody else. Your man is the one you
should care the most about impressing.
Don’t forget to be sensual around the home. It not only suggests the
possibility of intimate moments, but it also imparts an air of spice and
excitement to the ambience.
Kissing and cuddling; holding hands; walking arm in arm; a caring or
reassuring touch; words of endearment; saying :” I love you” Always
strive to keep affection well and truly alive in your relationship.
Encourage your man to show affection – both in private and in public –
by being openly affectionate towards him.
A great sex life catapults your relationship into a higher realm. It
makes you closer than ever as a couple. There is no greater joy in life
than a loving couple having great sex together on a regular basis. We
should all be in this position: having a great partner and a fantastic
sex life with that partner. It’s true that the day to day rigours of
life can take the shine off our sex lives. But only if we allow it. If
we strive to keep our relationships balanced and healthy, show genuine
affection, find time for romance, then there is no logical reason why we
can’t indulge in euphoric and greatly satisfying sex tougher.
Let yourself go completely and totally give yourself to your partner.
Lose all inhibitions. They only serve to stifle the enjoyment and
detract from the spontaneity. If you are performing oral acts (and his
personal hygiene is good), take pleasure in it. Relish it. The more you
genuinely enjoy giving him pleasure the more he will enjoy it, and the
more likely he will enthusiastically return the avour. Look for ways to
create variety. Change positions. Try new locations. Don't always
restrict it to the bedroom. Wear that sexy lingerie. Entice him to wear
something that you find a turn on. Be vocal during sex. Encourage him to
do the things you like by verbally letting him know how much you are
enjoying yourself. Never ever let the fire go out. Always search for
ways to stoke the fires of passion and keep them burning in your
relationship forever.
I wish you all true happiness!!
All you care about when people look at me is
what they think of you. How am I supposed to accept myself if my own
mother doesn’t accept me? When I have kids, I would accept them for who
they are, including who they date, no matter what. And I'd make sure
they damn well knew it.
I accept your apology but it doesn’t really make it okay. As u get
older, every choice u made defines who u are going to turn into. So
rather than apologizing to me, you need to look at yourself and ask if u
like the person u're becoming.
I come to u hat in hand, tail between my legs and off my high horse.
I need ur help.
Would u do the honor of being my girlfriend?
I am scared, Rufus, in a good way.
This conversation has to end because u are getting dangerously close
to being smarter than me.
I don’t like to be rescued. I rescue myself. Why do u think I am
rescuing u? What if I am rescuing myself?
Wear something that comes off easily.
Can I kiss u ?
Sometimes what u don't say ends up hurting u more
than what u do.
I have to deal with the consequences myself.
Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Many of us have limitations that are self-generated. When we do not feel
that we are worthy of happiness, we cannot possibly feel worthy of the
good things in our lives, the things that bring us happiness. Because we
do not believe we actually deserve them, that they could really be ours,
we fear their loss. This fear causes actual behaviors that lead to a
self-fulfilling prophecy: our fear of loss crates actual loss; our
feelings of being unworthy of happiness in fact lead to unhappiness.
To live a happy life, we must experience a sense of inherent worthiness.
As Nathaniel Branden writes, “ In order to seek values, man must
consider himself worthy of enjoying them. In order to fight for his
happiness, he must consider himself worthy of happiness.” We must
appreciate our core self, who we really are, independent of our tangible
accomplishments; we must believe that we deserve to be happy;
we must feel that we are worthy by virtue of our existence – because we
are born with the heart ad mind to experience pleasure and meaning.
When Mom said that the way to a man's heart was
through his stomach, she was about four inches too high.
A skillful male lover first stimulates a woman's
least sensitive and least erogenous areas. A skillful female lover first
stimulates a man's most pressing and sensitive organ.
Women should remember that, unlike themselves, men
feel better by taking time to cool off and think things through. Asking
a man questions when he is upset and angry will tend just to make him
angrier. Wait till he has cooled off a bit before taking together about
what is bothering him.
Although modern women are independent and assertive,
their female natures still seek out strong man who can provide
protection. They still want to be protected, but in a different sense.
Women now look to men to provide the emotional climate in which they can
safely explore and express their feelings.
Once a man experiences his woman's appreciation, his
resistance to doing more melts away. Instead of feeling like a child
controlled by his mother, he begins to welcome her requests for more.
It becomes easier for women to understand the extra
time a man needs to be open to relationship if we compare it to a
different arena in which she requires more time to open up. For example,
to enjoy sex after a stressful day, most women will strongly relate to
feeling the need for more time, attention, conversation, and romance
first. In a similar way, it is as difficult for a man to open up to a
relationship when he gets home as it is for a woman to open up to sex
after a long, stressful day. A man needs more time and space and lots of
appreciation to make the shift from office to home.
Some men give up on the thought of marriage because
their particular talents make it seem unlikely that they will earn big
money, or they feel that they'll have to sacrifice themselves too much
to make a large salary. Some men may have the woman of their dreams but
are afraid to commit because they don't make enough money. All men need
is a clear message that they don't need to make a lot of money to
successfully provide for her happiness. Then men can make the
commitment. Men are able to commit to the relationship when they feel
that their ability to provide for a woman is enough to make her happy.
While all men are not as obsessed with making money,
they do need to feel confident that they can provide for a woman's
happiness before making a commitment to marriage. Regardless of how much
money he makes, he can provide emotional support that can make a woman
much happier.
If women are to secure a lasting relationship, they
must first begin to open up to their feminine side, which feels no shame
in saying "I need a man."
We must always keep in mind that a man bonds
emotionally by successfully doing for a woman. A man experiences greater
intimacy each time he succeeds in providing his partner with
fulfillment. We must also remember that women experience greater
intimacy primarily by receiving love and support.
Getting at least 4 hugs a day from friends and
family members.
Practice containing your anger. You can redirect it
either through some physically constructive activity or privately
express your feeling in a journal. Look for other feelings underneath
the anger. when you do express anger, ideally it should be without
having to raise your voice, but in a firm, confident but centered, and
nonintimidating manner.
Need and dependence become a turn-on when we are
needing what our partner can give us.
As we realize through our relationships that our
differences are really superficial and that deep within we are all one,
we can transcend conflict and war and approach our problems with a new
awareness that respects and harmonizes differences. As in male/female
relationships, the solution is not in denying that differences exist.
The potential for conflict is resolved solely through honoring and
respecting each other and finding creative ways in which to fulfill our
differing needs.
Thou shalt give life for life, eye for eye, tooth
for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot. - Exodus 21:23-24
An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. ~
Mahatma Gandhi
Not that I speak according to
lack, for I have learned, in whatever circumstances I am, to be content.
I know also how to be abased, and I know how to abound; in everything
and in all things I have learned the secret both to be filled and to
hunger, both to abound and to lack. I am able to do all things in Him
who empowers me. ~Philippeans 4:11-13
Always be willing to admit when you're wrong.
Hope is a good thing, maybe the
best of things and no good thing ever dies. I will be hoping that this
mail finds you and finds you well. I hope to see my friend and to shake
his hand. I hope the Pacific is as blue as it is in my dreams. ~ from
The Shawshack Redemption.
知之為知之，不知google知！
He strolled. Like a man in the
park without a care or a worry in the world. Like he had on an invisible
coat that would shield him from this place.
I like being a mess. This is who I am. Look, even if
I pass all the the problems now, I am going out and find new ones.
I am 27 and it is too early in life to be really
troubled by anything, isn't it?
"Manners are kindnesses we share with others." ~ Audrey Hepburn's mom
Life is a journey worth the effort when there are
dreams to pursue, when there are people to love and when there is faith
to guide us along the way.
Well, you will hear a lot of negative things in this
line of work. You cannot do things that everyone will like all of the
time. You just have to decide who your audience is and stick with it.
We can live our lives drawing lines, or we can live
our lives crossing them. But sometimes if we are willing to take the
chance to view from the other side of the lines, the view from the other
side can be ... Spectacular!!
Life is a journey, one that is better traveled with
a companion. The vow is simple, really. But the hard part is to find a
person who can share this promise with you.
... and sometimes the only way to ward off the
darkness is to shine the light of compassion.
Who knows what his problem is, but it does not need
to be your problem.
An expert is someone who knows more and more about
less and less and eventually he knows everything about nothing.
Why are we so obsessed with positive numbers? Why do
we always say you owe me 4 dollars instead of I owe you negative 4
dollars?
Take your time deciding how you want your life to be
and who you want to spend your life with.
People come into our life and people go. But it is
comforting to know that the ones we love are always in our hearts.
Avoidance is a good strategy too sometimes! Anyway,
try not to get upset with people. You wouldn't get upset with a goat
for being a goat, so why get upset with ignorant people for being
ignorant? That's just the way they are.
Like everything else interesting about human beings,
preferences are a mixture of hereditary and environment. Schools must
surely have a major part, if only because they occupy a large part of a
child’s day. It is a traditional view that not only does education
influence values but it ought to do so. ~ Arrow (1997)
The point is that you only really control your own
behavior not someone else's, and as long as you always behave correctly,
then you should not worry about it if other people do not - that is
really their problem.
"It was wrong to vent on you’re the way I did.
It’s okay. I can pretend to understand.
Pretend?
I don’t have a friendship on the level of yours with Renne so it would
be presumptuous of me to say I know.
What? You have friends.
Yes, and if I were on trial, I would like to think that somebody could
be so interested. He or she could behave as erratically as you have. But
win or lose, Renne is a fortunate person.
John, if you were on trial, I would be there for you. " ~ from Ally
McBeal
Common Law Legal System as opposed to Civil Law
Legal System.
Excerpt from President Clinton's State of Union
address (January, 19,1999)
~He was such a good speaker.
We must all be profoundly grateful for the magnificent achievements of
our forbearers in this century.
Yet perhaps in the daily press of events, in the clash of controversy,
we don't see our own time for what it truly is--a new dawn for America.
A hundred years from tonight, another American president will stand in
this place and report on the State of the Union. He--or she--will look
back on the 21st century shaped in so many ways by the decisions we make
here and now.
So let it be said of us then that we were thinking not only of our time,
but of their time; that we reached as high as our ideals; that we put
aside our divisions and found a new hour of healing and hopefulness;
that we joined together to serve and strengthen the land we love.
My fellow Americans, this is our moment. Let us lift our eyes as one
nation, and from the mountaintop of this American century, look ahead to
the next one--asking God's blessing on our endeavors and on our beloved
country.
Thank you, and good evening.
Excerpt from President Clinton's State of Union address
(January, 20,1997)
And so, my fellow
Americans, we must be strong, for there is much to dare. The demands of
our time are great, and they are different. Let us meet them with faith
and courage, with patience and a grateful, happy heart. Let us shape the
hope of this day into the noblest chapter in our history. Yes, let us
build our bridge, a bridge wide enough and strong enough for every
American to cross over to a blessed land of new promise.
May those generations whose faces we cannot yet see, whose names we may
never know, say of us here that we led our beloved land into a new
century with the American dream alive for all her children, with the
American promise of a more perfect Union a reality for all her people,
with America's bright flame of freedom spreading throughout all the
world.
From the height of this place and the summit of this century, let us go
forth. May God strengthen our hands for the good work ahead, and always,
always bless our America.
One Day Travel in Tokyo (
4/13/2008)
9:00 AM
From "National Graduate Institute for Policy
Studies", Roppongi, Minato-ku, Tokyo to Asakusa
（浅草) Station
11:00 AM
From Asakusa （浅草) Station to
Higashi-Ginza. Arrive in Kabuki-za Theatre. Watch Kabuki.
1:00 PM
Walk from Kabuki-za Theatre to
Tsukijishijo (築地市场). Eat Sushi.
2:00 PM
From Tsukijishijo (築地市场) to
Akabanebashi (赤羽娇）. Visit the Tokyo Tower. Observatory platform.
4:00 PM
From Akabanebashi (赤羽娇）to Omote-sando
(表参道）Station. Walk to Meiji-jingumate ( 明治神宫） Visit Meiji Shrine.
What's my favorite
hymn?
Lord, I do thank you for another day.
To Practice living You in You to stay.
Lord, grant me the grace, Your life mine to replace.
Two lives one, oh what a sweet embrace.
Lord, be my pattern, humble and lowly.
Save me from self and pride and vainglory.
Preserve and keep me, for Your economy.
Live in me, possess me wholly.
What's inside the ucla logo?
Let there be light!!“And
you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”John 8:3
